The actress, 60, took to Instagram Live on Friday to debate her late ex-husband with therapist Angie Johnsey and teared up whereas reminiscing in regards to the rockstar.
“We do want the darkish to see the intense mild, to see how mild it may be,” Bertinelli mentioned about grief. “With out the darkish, we might by no means see the sunshine — it’s simply there and also you turn into numb to it. So the darkness makes us respect the sunshine extra.”
“You by no means like this new regular however that is what it’s,” Bertinelli mentioned afterward, reflecting on life after Van Halen’s loss of life. “It is about discovering a option to survive this new regular… which many individuals are doing. This entire yr sadly has been about loss of life and grieving and loss.”
“Too many individuals have misplaced too many issues. It is simply shattering what is going on on,” the actress added. “Speaking about grief is the suitable factor to do. We’re all going by some type of it.”
“That is the factor about grief is it is really a little bit of a blessing as a result of — and I will simply take my relationship with Ed for the final 40 years — it was a messy relationship,” she mentioned. “We had some very troublesome, very difficult instances, however we had some stunning instances too.”
“The stunning factor about grief and the reward that it offers you is that it is a lot simpler to recollect the attractive moments than the difficult and the troublesome moments that we had with that particular person,” she continued. “These are stunning issues to carry onto and keep in mind one of the best of whoever you are grieving.”
Bertinelli then mirrored on the previous couple’s son Wolfgang and hopes that he’ll keep in mind one of the best of her when she is gone.
“I can solely hope that once I’m gone, my son will keep in mind one of the best of me and never the worst of me. I feel that is one thing to carry onto, that one of the best of you will get remembered,” Bertinelli mirrored.
Bertinelli and Van Halen have been married for 26 years. They separated in 2001 and finalized their divorced in 2007. Earlier this week, Bertinelli and Wolfgang paid tribute to Van Halen on what would have been his 66th birthday on Tuesday.
Van Halen, finest recognized for his progressive tapping, virtuosic guitar approach and his impeccable shredding, died at the age of 65 in October.